主播:翩翩(中國)+Selah(美國)
歌曲:Love Story
Selah recently got engaged!!! Selah最近訂婚啦!!!
今天,我們一起來盤點(diǎn)一下外網(wǎng)熱議的話題:the best relationship advice we have ever gotten (你聽過哪些最好的戀愛建議)。
1. 常感恩 (Show appreciation often.)
Never take each other for granted. Show appreciation often.
“我從來不會把對方的好當(dāng)作理所當(dāng)然,我會經(jīng)常對我愛人表達(dá)感激、肯定與欣賞?!?/p>
2.吵架時(shí),你倆也是一伙的。(You are a team)
When you are resolving an issue, you and your partner are a team, not people fighting against each other. It is the two of you versus the problem itself. (吵架的時(shí)候你對抗的,不應(yīng)該是你的另一半,而應(yīng)該是你們倆一起對抗問題。)
“對兩個(gè)相愛的人來說,吵架除了破壞身體健康、耽誤事兒、以及事后后悔之外,沒有其他的用處,所以有不愉快的時(shí)候,盡量提醒彼此及時(shí)止損,互相配合著把問題解決掉,而不是把對方解決掉。It’s all about the issue. It’s not personal.
3. 讓你人生充實(shí)的,不是伴侶。(It’s your own responsibility.)
They can never make you ultimately happy and fulfill everything you need in life. (讓你獲得最終幸福,以及讓你人生充實(shí)的不是你的伴侶。)
能做到這些的,有且只有你自己。It’s your own responsibility to have a happy and fulfilling life.
They will make your life better, but they cannot guarantee your happiness. 好的伴侶會讓你的生活更甜蜜,但不能為你的人生幸福做擔(dān)保。
因?yàn)?,幸福在自身之?nèi),不在自身之外。True happiness cannot be found in another person。
4. 跟誰結(jié)婚?(Marry your best friend.)
You should marry your best friend and someone you enjoy spending time with.(跟那個(gè)能成為你最好朋友的人結(jié)婚,跟那個(gè)你喜歡與其過日子的人結(jié)婚。)
無論對方多么地make you feel a certain way, “感覺”,都是靠不太住的。
Feelings change but friendship can help you stand the test of time. (感覺會變,但友誼經(jīng)得住時(shí)間考驗(yàn)。)
“我跟我愛人都認(rèn)識十多年了,現(xiàn)在依然是每天聊不完的天,我們真的是對方最好的朋友。所以我覺得感情保鮮的秘訣里,一定有一條是友誼?!?/p>
5. 愛是一件又一件的小事 (little acts of love)
影視劇會給我們另一種misconception(誤解),就是love is about big gestures(愛是驚天動(dòng)地的大事),但是,many times, little acts of love mean more。
The New York Times《紐約時(shí)報(bào)》出過一個(gè)特刊,征集了100位讀者說說how they show their affection day-in and day-out(日常怎么通過一些小的行為表達(dá)愛意)。題目叫做 ‘100 Small Acts of Love’ (一百件愛的小事)。
很多讀者的回答瑣碎而動(dòng)人,比如:
每天晚上刷牙時(shí)會順便在對方的牙刷上放上牙膏(put toothpaste on the other person’s toothbrush);
每次上車、下車時(shí),互相親吻對方一下(kiss each other every time they get in and out of the car)。
一位加州的女士說:21年了,我丈夫總是會把最后一口甜點(diǎn)留給我。(For more than 21 years, my husband has given me the last bite of his dessert, always.)
真的都是一些small acts, but strong relationships need this kind of regular care and attention。
6. 他/她不會讀心術(shù)( They cannot read your mind.)
If there is something bothering you, you should talk about it. 你的伴侶不會讀心術(shù)(your partner cannot read your mind),所以心里話要及時(shí)說出來,要告訴對方,及時(shí)溝通。
不然,憋久了,you will feel bitter about everything(會看什么都怨氣沖天)。
那我們今天關(guān)于“你聽過哪些最好的戀愛建議”就盤點(diǎn)到這里,每段感情都會有起伏(every relationship has its ups and downs),但是只要多一些努力和理解,感情會越來越牢固美好。
也希望你們留言告訴大家:
你聽過哪些最好的戀愛建議?